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Positive Psychology – a little introduction
I was attracted to Positive Psychology by an article in the Sunday Times about six years ago entitled “Can you learn to be happier?” The article was based on an interview with the leading light of the American Positive Psychology movement, Martin Seligman. Running a wellbeing business which deals with physical and mental wellbeing I was enthusiastic and curious about the subject and was lucky to be amongst the first group of people in Europe to study for a masers degree in the subject.
My initial enthusiasm turned slightly to scepticism on day one. Once you start to investigate the practicality of defining happiness/wellbeing and then measuring “it” many logical and practical problems arise.
The most commonly used measure is Ed Dieners Satisfaction with life scale (SWL). This asks people to rate their satisfaction with life on a scale from 1 to 7 . It’s a reasonable wellbeing measurement because it enables values to be included. For example you may consider a happy life to be one which is filled with pleasure with an absence of suffering. If this is what you value and this is what you get then you can claim to be satisfied. If you value meaning in your life and you find your life meaningful then you rate yourself as being satisfied. The scale reflects values and enables hedonists to be compared to those looking for meaning. There are many other ways that researcher’s measure wellbeing but this one has an advantage because it is simple, clear and inclusive.
A typical piece of positive psychology research would seek to ask participants to rate their satisfaction and then get them to do an activity (anything from meditation to Scottish country line dancing). They would then ask the participants to rate themselves using the scale during, after and often some months later. Researchers would also compare groups of people. For example, they would investigate people on different levels of income, country, age etc.
What they found was that the most satisfied (I’m going to change to the word to happy now even though that opens up whole can of worms – I just think satisfied sounds a bit smug).
What they found was that the happiest people were those having a close group of supportive friends, were in a loving relationship, were optimistic about the future and broadly they felt that their career and financial goals were moving in the right direction. Hardly rocket science I know but interestingly what the research tends to suggest is that there is little or no relationship between your level of income and happiness. Once you have enough to cover the basics and a roof over your head happiness levels are fairly consistent across the globe.
However our level of happiness has a lot to do with how much I get paid compared to the people I know (or think I know or think I should know). Some research suggests that, if offered a choice between, earning a high wage but being paid less than most of our work colleagues or being paid less but more than our colleagues we would take the latter option.
All these findings are interesting but are they based on fundamental flakiness? It seems that due to strong heritable factors our self reported level of satisfaction hovers around a set point (Mehls set point). No matter what we do it tends to move back to this point. Our natural wellbeing level may be 50% due to heritable factors, 10% due to our circumstances and 40% down to the choices we make in the present moment. This seems to suggest that on a day to day basis we have a great deal of opportunity to choose to be happy but over the longer term we may have less influence
To me this is an empowering message. Like personality our happiness and wellbeing levels are strongly influenced by our ancestors and its up to us to understand why our parents were influenced by their parents and environment and for us to create new patterns of behaviour. Its a little like the Hindu idea of karma. We are born with predispositions. We have tendencies to behave in certain ways but we have a daily choice as to whether to examine those tendencies and explore whether they serve our long term goals and happiness.
At Breathe London we have put together a 30 day wellbeing plan with many interventions from the field of Positive Psychology – details at http://breathe-london.com/positive-psychology
What does a thriving life mean to you ?
Feeling secure and confident
I feel secure, confident and loved. Whilst I know that my family and community partly shaped my destiny, the knowledge of where I have come from has helped me develop independent views and instil trust in my own judgement. I know how to occasionally challenge my beliefs so that I don’t get set in my ways.
I feel grounded but understand that things change quickly and I need to be flexible. Being grounded doesn’t make me heavy. I move with a light purposeful stride.
When I look back at my life I cherish the achievements and good times. Although I have faced many challenges and some painful times, these experiences have also taught me how to lead a full and vibrant life.
Feeling energised
I have a good awareness of the things in life that increase or deplete my energy. This includes what I eat, how I exercise, how I move as well as how I connect to people and how I choose to think. In particular I understand the relationship between my thoughts, emotions and how my body feels. I know that my emotions, energy and thoughts are influenced by my environment and I’m confident that I can modify my environment to help me perform well.
I know when to push hard and when to kick back and rest. I feel at my best when I’m playing to my strengths but I also understand that my striving has an impact on those around me. I’ve found the right balance in my life between having fun, being playful and where I get meaning from.
Cultivating positive intent
My experiences have taught me that it’s easier to move towards my goals through hard work combined with kindness and compassion for others. I realise that in striving to achieve my own goals it’s important to share the effort with people who have similar passions. I feel like I am part of something bigger than just myself.
I’ve brought into balance my own needs whilst also enabling those around me to fulfil their potential. I am grateful for the things that I have achieved in my life and the kindness of others.
I’m confident in expressing my views but get the most out of conversations when listening to the wisdom of others. I know the difference between dialogue and debate. I’m good at picking up emotional signals from other people and the environment. I know that my moods affect the way I think and I’m able to solve problems by listening to what my heart and head are telling me and blending the information.
Having a sense of direction
My dreams about the future are positive. I’ve identified goals which balance my need for financial security alongside optimising my health and the wellbeing of those I love.
As I move toward my goals I have the presence of mind to appreciate the joy and pleasures of the journey. Sometimes my goals are clearly defined and at others they are vague. Whichever is the case, I feel confident that I am moving in the right direction. Sometimes I push myself hard but am secure and confident enough to know when to pull back and enjoy letting others reach the summit first. I reappraise my goals often and know that you don’t have to climb all the highest peaks.
I’m confident that either I can learn new skills to help me move towards my goals or I can count on close friends to help me.
Being focused
Making the most of my time means that I can focus on detail whilst remaining alert to the big picture and the possibility of wonderful new experiences. Being present to experience brings richness and colour to my life.
I understand that joy is an essential part of life. I savour new experiences but don’t grasp them. I’ve learnt to enjoy and then let go. I occasionally examine my habits and routines to check whether they still bring me meaning and joy. When life gets too complex I go back to basics and stop investing in things I no longer value.